How to Not Screw Up Your 30s

hey friends welcome back to the channel so I recently turned 30 and over the last 10 years I've met some incredibly successful people who have become friends and mentors to me in some way or another and so as a bit of a

celebration of my 30th birthday I asked a few of them to share some life advice with me for my 30s I asked everyone to answer the question what do you wish you'd known when you turned 30 and so if you're older than 30 you might find that interesting and if you're under 30 it

might be interesting for you to help plan out your next few years depending on how old you are now these are all people who I look up to in some way on the business front they're all very very successful in business or in as writers or whatever their work thing is which is

often how I connect with them but I also really admire how they approach their personal lives I don't really believe too much in learning from people who are just like full on in work mode because they they often make sacrifices in their

personal life to get ahead in their work and I'm really looking for more holistic advice cuz I you know I want to do well in the work stuff and have an impact and write more books and stuff you know the the personal stuff is way more important

than the work stuff and so I like to get advice from people who I feel will have a decent balance between the two there's going to be time stamps down below if you would like to skip around but now let's get into it all right so we're

starting things off with Matthew hussy well well well here we go again now Matthew is a relationship and dating coach who is also big in the world of personal development and I first met Matthew a few years ago when I

interviewed him on my podcast and then we became friends after that and we've hung out a bunch of times and so this is Matthew's advice happy birthday ali uh what would I hope someone told me at 30

that the things I keep hiding about myself thinking that if people knew them uh I would be unattractive or unlikable or

unlovable uh were actually just parts of me that needed compassion and parts of me I needed to accept and that even though they were parts of me those

things do not Define me happy birthday my man okay so this is an interesting one uh one thing I want to do as I go throughout this video is create uh action points for each of these pieces of Life advice cuz I think the thing

with life advice and I I give a lot of it here on this YouTube channel it's it's it's very easy to just take it get a little bit of boost of motivation and DOP mean and like yeah that's pretty good but if it doesn't translate into

action points It generally doesn't have much of an impact and so in this case I think the action point here is a journaling prompt what parts of myself do I keep hidden firstly and secondly what about me am I scared will make me

less attractive likable or lovable o these are good questions you know this actually lands quite well um if I think about it there's definitely things that I worry will make me less likable

or lovable the likable one is like the main thing for me I think one of one of my realizations over the last year or so is that I feel like I have this strong

desire to be liked and that often leads to me deprioritizing my own my own preferences the things that I want to do for the sake of what I often perceive

someone else might want now obviously there's a balancing act here there's some aspects of life in which you know to sacrifice one one's own preferences for the sake of someone else is like a

nice thing to do but I think I probably take it a little bit too far because I'm really scared of being called Selfish that word the word selfish is

interesting I actually had side note uh a conversation with executive Coach Joe Hudson God damn I should have reached out to him for this video but anyway um had a had a chat with him on my podcast that episode will be out soon and we

talked about the word selfish and his view was that the word selfish is a word that primarily uh parents use to control the behavior of their kids and essentially selfish means you are doing

something that I don't want you to do and actually in some ways embracing selfishness is feels feels scary to say but embracing selfishness can often be quite

empowering be like yeah actually I'm going to do what I want uh obviously Balancing Act uh recently also reread the book No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover which sounds like a quite a click

baity and mean title um but it's really really really good book and it's basically about helping mostly men who are sort of nice guys uh actually think

about what they want rather than simply sort of caretaking and I guess managing the emotions of the people around them so yeah this this really lands and I'm definitely going to be journaling about this as well after this video and maybe you might like to do the same if you

would like oh quick thing if you're watching this before the 30th of June 2024 you might like to check out a completely free quarterly alignment webinar that I'm hosting completely

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Quests for the next 3 months it is completely free anyone from anywhere in the world with an internet connection you are very welcome to join there is a link down below if you want to check it out all right next up we have Marie folio who is an entrepreneur and an

author she runs an online program called business school and she has a really good book called Everything Is figureoutable which is you know kind of about what it says on the tin and I met Marie actually about 5 months ago when I

was in New York um we somehow got connected and she took me out to lunch and just gave me loads of business advice and also life advice and which is super friendly and super nice and so I reached out to her for this video I wish someone would have told me these three

things when I turn 30 number one if you have a dream of doing a awesome vacation with your parents or anyone in your family who's older do it now now all of us age it goes by really fast and you do

not want to miss out on the opportunity to be with the ones that you love while everyone still has their health number two keep embracing that lowcost lifestyle keep your expenses low and

dial up on the earnings and savings bit it will pay off a millionfold as you continue to age and number three wear the sunscreen like all over the body you got to keep it tight and right and cute

and sunscreen is the answer nice on the sunscreen front I do in fact wear wear sunscreen almost every day I got that in my evidence-based skincare video which you can check out if you haven't seen already the lowcost lifestyle thing is interesting um this is something that

I've been I've been thinking about for a while cuz as I've made more money over the years uh my lifestyle costs have also gone up this is something called lifestyle inflation or lifestyle creep depending on who you read about this

sort of stuff and so my action point for this is to remember to run the numbers um I don't really have a sense of how much I'm spending on like my lifestyle cost right now I don't really have a sense of how much money is coming into

the bank every month or every year depending on what happens with the company it's all kind of complicated and it's been a very long time since I've actually sat down to run the numbers on this so that's definitely an action point Thank You Marie and the vacations

with parents and family that is a really good one that is a very very very good one all right action point plan family trip and I'm going to add that into my relationship productivity system which

is something I've been building on tion and stuff using databases to keep track of who I want to run create trips with and who I want to keep in touch with and stuff I'll do a video about it at some point but yeah I've been finding that really helpful for being more

intentional about uh relationships but hadn't really thought of doing a family trip so thank you Marie for that advice all right next up we have Mark Manson Mark Manson as you might know is the author of the mega bestselling book The

subtle art of not giving a and I've been following Mark online since like 2011 I think when I first read his book models which is about how to attract women LOL and then I've been following his blog ever since then when he became

more about personal development rather than about like men's men's Improvement te type bits he very kindly interviewed me on his podcast when his book was coming out and uh when I was in LA I reached out to him just hang out and he was super gracious and friendly with his

time and always gives really really good life advice when I turned 30 I wish someone had told me that you really start to appreciate how little time you have in life see when you're 20 your

whole life is in front of you and there's kind of this infinite amount of opportunity that you feel like you can take advantage of but by the time you get to your 30s you've been through a decade of adult life and you've roughly

seen what can and cannot be accomplished in a decade and you realize that it's not not that much and so I feel like your decisions take on a greater weight

as you get older you have less time in front of you and you've built up enough things in your life that you have something to lose you've got a career you've got relationships you have obligations you have payroll you have

family members you don't have that Carefree luxury that you do when you're young so that's what I wish somebody had told me when I turned 30 happy birthday Olli I'm

super happy for you dude uh you continue to impress and I hope your 30s are as fruitful as your 20s were appreciate how little time you have decisions take on a

greater weight o That's nice the way in which this lands for me right now is that I still think I do a lot of deferring in the sense that you know to Marie's earlier point about you know

vacation with family I'm like oh it would be cool to go on this trip with my mom and grandma or whatever and then I look at my calendar I'm like yeah but the Calendar's really busy with all this work stuff and then I'm doing this work trip and then I'm going to Boise ID for this conference and then I'm blah blah

blah and then this thing's happening and that thing's happening so maybe 6 months from now when the calendar clears up dot dot dot dot dot dot dot dot dot and it's very easy I think especially with work

stuff it's very easy to let the work stuff fill up the calendar and think that there will always be more time for the other stuff the family stuff I think I'm doing an okay job in other aspects

like in health I've started taking my health a lot more seriously this year recognizing that ah okay I'm 30 now you know most people when are 30 they be become less healthy than they were in their 20s so I want to counteract that

particular inertia so what's the action point here what is the action point what's the journaling prompt I think the journaling prompt is something that I haven't thought about in a very long time but I used to think about this a lot which is that if I knew I was going

to die in 2 years what would I do how would that change how I spend my time yes that is a good one and last time I asked myself this question which would have been a few years ago now I concluded that one of the things I would do differently is that I would play more

video games because I sort of had drunk the Kool-Aid that like video games are a waste of time and unproductive and stuff and I realized you know if I knew I was going to die in 2 years yeah I'd do all the friends family Hangouts type things but I'd also probably play more single

player role playing games which is my favorite type of video game and now I'm playing Horizon forbidden West on PS5 and I also concluded that I would read more fiction so since then I have actually been reading more fiction so once I do this journaling prompt now that I'm 30 it would be interesting to

see what the results are and as always maybe you'd like to do it as well I'd love to hear in the comments if you do any of these journaling prompts or take any of these action points as well what is the thing that you're going to what's the change you're going to make in your

life as a result of having watched this video all right next up we have Dr aroc kenoia often known as Dr K online who runs an enormous YouTube channel called healthy gamer G Al is a psychiatrist and

also trained as a monk and he was teaching on the faculty of Harvard Medical School now Al and I first got to know each other about a year ago when I was in Austin and then since then we've kept in touch we've become sort of

online Zoom friends and then we also we also did a bunch of therapy sessions is the wrong word for it but sort of coaching sessions where he sort of helped me work through some things that I was struggling with last year I really

respect what he's built with healthy gamer his content is amazing and he's also just a really great guy just in terms of always be always being willing to hop on a call and you know give some advice um sort of like sort of like an elder brother cuz he's like several

years older than me but yeah let's see what Al has to say hey El happy 30th birthday man much love one of the things that I wish I knew when I was 30 was how important it is to make bad decisions

the some of the best decisions I've made in my life are actually bad decisions like getting married way too early or having two kids during residency or even walking away from great job offers I

think we spend the first three decades of our life living up to others expectations and once you're kind of cross 30 it's time to really stop and re-evaluate and think about what you

want from life and start moving towards it happy 30th birthday bro oh I like it this is nice make bad decisions we we often

spend the first three decades of our life living up to other people's expectations yeah I would say that's probably true for me for the for at least the first 25 years and probably even the last

five what do I actually want this is another journaling prompt what would I like to do if I didn't care at all about what others would think and number two what bad decisions could I make that I'd probably be grateful for one thing that

really comes to mind for the first one is that i' probably try living in a van for a bit it's something I've always wanted to do I say always it's something I've wanted to do for a few years and I just haven't really gotten around to it if I think about it there's nothing really stopping me from doing that so I

could just do that for a week here in London and just see what happens and I can think of a few ideas around bad decisions that I'd make that I'd probably be grateful for further down the line but I'm not going to share them in this video I may write them up in an issue of my newsletter by the way I have

a Weekly Newsletter it's called Sunday Snippets every Sunday I send an email to my audience with some thoughts some things that I'm learning some books that I've been reading interesting insights all this sort of stuff uh so if you're interested you can check it out it's

free you can unsubscribe whenever you want al.com suunday or the link in the video description all right next up we have near EOL who is also a bestselling author of the books hooked and

indistractable in particular I really love indistractable it helped me focus better and near very kindly invited me to a writer Retreat that he held in his house in New York so I stayed at his place for a few days met a bunch of

other really cool writers and he was also super helpful over the years um in giving me just advice over email and zoom when it came to marketing like sort of writing publishing marketing my own book feel good productivity which you can check out down below if you haven't

already and N is just a great guy all around he's like in his 40s I think and he's like in really really good shape he's absolutely jacked seems to have a really really strong family life as well really thinks intentionally about

relationships and about kids and stuff so I wonder what n has to say Oli congratulations on your 30th birthday buddy I'm so happy for you if there's one piece of advice I wish someone would have told me at 30 years old it would be

this that if you found the woman or man of your dreams the person who you think can be the father or mother of your children don't wait have those kids as quickly as possible have as many as you

possibly can they bring so much joy to your life and if you don't have the kids at least you will always have fun trying

nice oh okay that's interesting that's interesting you know what that was actually one of the bad decisions that I had on my list with the ol journaling prompt I was thinking like

yeah a bad decision would probably to have kids ASAP and uh have plenty of them a lot of people would advise against those sorts of things it's interesting that Nero says that don't wait have kids as soon as as possible

have as many as possible cuz they bring a lot of joy into life that's good that's good okay well I'm not married yet so until I get married I think one thing that would actually be useful is as an

action point uh fertility testing this is actually something I heard from another friend recently as well saying that like you know they they struggled to have kids and it took them like 5 years blah blah blah and had they just done fertility testing when they

first got together or when they first knew that they were going to be together um they would have been able to do things earlier so that's a fairly easy thing to do even pre-marriage which is interesting if you happen to be watching

this at this point in the video and you are a parent I.E you have one or more kids I would love to hear your take on this um do you wish you had more kids do you wish you had fewer kids feel free to use a throwaway YouTube account if you

can't publicly admit to wanting to have your kids uh but I'd love to hear what your perspective on that is um if you happen to If you happen to have kids all righty next up we have sahill Bloom now

sahill is only a few years older than me I think he's like 34 or 35 but s and I got to know each other when he came to London about 2 years ago and he featured on my podcast we went out to dinner we became friends and we've hung out a bunch of times since and again what I

love about SEL is that he's ridiculously successful as an entrepreneur but he's also very very present as a father and as a husband and he really like it's not just a show he has he's got a YouTube channel where he talks about this sort of stuff but it's really not a show he

really does massively prioritize his family um often at the expense of his work which is actually I think the right thing to do so I really admire SLE for that let's see what SLE has to say when

I turned 30 I wish someone had told me that game selection is now more important than game access by the way this is coming from The Ripe old age of

33 so I cannot claim to have all that much more earned life experience or wisdom than you but I'll do my best so first the Tactical piece of advice your

life to date and in your 20s has been all about game access what do I mean by that well you want to open yourself up in your 20s to the maximum number of

opportunities the maximum number of games and that is the focus of your 20s and you get there by saying yes to a lot of things you want to open yourself up

to new people new experiences new job opportunities all of that has been an exploration phase to date and your 20s you did a great job of that your 30s are

going to be very different your 30s are all about game selection so if your 20s were about game access your 30s and Beyond are going to be about game

selection being very deliberate about the games that you say yes to because your energy and your attention is so very finite your 20s were all about

exploring the map and finding the right games now you're 30s and Beyond you're going to need to hone in on the games that really matter the games that you really want to play and the games that

are going to drive asymmetric 10x 100x THX outcomes in your career in your life and your health in all of these different areas so think about that as

you dive into your 30s it's probably the biggest mistake I made in my early 30s was not realizing that I needed to make that transition I continued saying yes to too many games in my early 30s and it

led me astray it led me down paths burning energy on things that really didn't matter and really weren't going to drive the needle towards my longterm vision mission and goals so think about

that that's my tactical piece of wisdom for you now for the final piece of wisdom that I want to share with you the best things

in life are not free that common wisdom that common Trope of oh the best things in life are free it's a lie the best

things in life are very very expensive extraordinarily expensive in fact but you can't buy them with money they have to be earned through effort through

daily consistency and discipline we've talked about this in the past you and I have done events where we talked about it on stage but it's so so important as you get into your 30s to realize this

your relationships with the people you love your health your mindset your mentality your career the team that you're building all of these things are

hard-earned you have to put in the effort every single day if you want to build those things they are the best things in life they cannot be bought you have to earn them so continue on your

journey I'm so proud of you I'm so proud of everything that you've accomplished to date and I can't wait to continue to have fun exploring together as we continue to narrow in on these games

that really matter and I hope some of those games align for our future because I can't wait to do more with you that's cute thank you s that's very kind I love that okay game access versus game

selection that's a really nice way of framing it sort of reminds me of the Derek civer advice which is that when you're early on in your career a damn I should have reached out to Derek as well for this video never mind when you're early on in your career uh say yes to

everything and then at a certain point when you start having too many opportunities coming your way it's it's either a hell yes or it's a no thank you it's either a hell yes or it's a no thank you and I think I also am am

currently facing this dilemma where you know especially since the book has come out and has been successful and now I get invited to do all these talks and stuff at different places it's so easy to start saying yes

to too much stuff um and so my journaling prompt here is what games do I really want to be playing in my 30s and I think another one related to PES Point number two would be what areas

should I increase and decrease my investment of time and effort into it's interesting the best things in life are very expensive but you can't buy them with money you buy them you earn them through effort discipline and consistency so certainly a few things on

the relationship front come to mind on the health front I think I've been pretty reasonable about that recently but it's something to keep it keep in mind there's again there's probably some aspects in work in my business where I

should decrease my investment of time and effort and other areas of my work where I should increase the investment of time and effort into there are certain work projects that have the potential for weigh greater gains in terms of impact and also money and also

fun than other areas and so it's about making the decision to transition out of one phase of work and into another yeah okay nice solid journaling prompts and again if you're interested in joining me on these journaling prompts I'd love to

hear in the comments or you can actually just email me if you don't want to share it publicly Al al.com I would love to hear what your response is to some of these journaling prompts all righty next up we have Dan go who is actually my

fitness coach and Dan and I have never met in person but 3 days from now he's coming over to London to stay at my house cuz he lives in Canada so he's staying with me for a few days so we'll meet in person for the first time and maybe do a podcast and stuff together

but Dan's great uh Dan is super friendly super nice and has really helped me get my health and fitness in check so let's see what Dan has to say hey what's up B just want to say happy birthday and if I

were to give anyone a piece of advice uh for hitting 30 I would say that there is no greater return on investment than getting your body in shape even the

actions of getting out in nature of exercising doing cardio eating healthy foods all these have a tremendous impact on not only your body but also your

brain and also when you start to get in shape when you start to get more fit you just start to feel more energetic you start to feel more confident you start to feel more focused so if there's anything that I would say that would

completely change your life not only your physical life but also your business and your relationships it is to get your body in shape you will see no

greater Roi than to do there nice that's really good um this is something that I've really started to appreciate recently and I was doing a session for productivity lab which is my um Community for entrepreneurs creators and professionals who want to double their

productivity we were doing a session like yesterday um where one of the things that I encouraged people it was one of the journaling prompts was what would it look like if you tripled the amount of time effort and money you are

currently spending on your health as a result of just that question a bunch of people hired personal trainers bunch of people joined gyms bunch of people joined exercise classes ordered healthier food you know that kind of thing and it's one of those things that

I keep keep hearing from older people that you know in your 20s and 30s you really really really want to take care of your health especially in your 30s and so they say that you know intelligence is learning from your own experience but wisdom is learning from

the experience of others or something like that every single person older than me I know has said you know they wish they'd taken more care of their health and so that's something that I'm already doing with personal trainers and gyms

and meal delivery that's like healthy and macro rich and you know all the all this stuff um but having said that there's probably more I could be doing so journaling prompt what would it look like if I had to triple the time and

money I invest in my health something that comes to mind straight aways I'd probably walk more I probably don't get 10,000 steps a day because I spend a lot of my time in front of computers for work so that's an easy win um I'd

probably increase the amount of personal training sessions that I do I currently do three per week but i' probably bump that up to four or five or even six not all of them have to be weights they could also be like Mobility flexibility and that kind of stuff and probably

figure out like what are the longevity blood tests and stuff that people are doing these days and should I do some of those yeah those are a few of the things that come to mind what would it look like if I had to triple the time and money I invest in my health thank you

down all right next up we have my friend and Mentor Chris Ducker Chris is is also an entrepreneur and author who is in his 50s and we became friends again when he was on my podcast a few years ago and we've hung out a few times since then and we're part of the same like men's

Mastermind group so let's see what what Chris has to say hey allly what's up it's Chris Ducker here man happy birthday to you I wanted to share a little advice with you if that's cool if somebody had have told me when I was 30

what I'm going to share with you it would have made my 30s a lot less stressful probably more profitable quite frankly uh but mostly just a heck of a

lot more enjoyable and that is that to embrace the action of learning how to switch off and recharge and reset and recalibrate your mental bandwidth as

well as obviously your physical bandwidth as well we all know that being an entrepreneur is often very stressful somewhat lonely at times as well but

also great leaders continue to look after themselves so that they continue to lead and so that's my advice to you on your big 30 is to be able to embrace

the action switching off taking it easy maybe playing a little bit more PlayStation and generally just enjoying more have a great great birthday and

I'll see you soon yeah nice thank you Chris um action point that comes to mind there is just I I just really don't schedule enough time to recharge into my calendar probably should that would be a very sensible thing to

do I I have enough of it on a sort of week toe basis but because I don't really do a lot of forward planning in terms of like the months and the quarters and even the years it means that I currently don't take enough

holidays don't take enough vacations don't take enough time to completely switch off from work and another piece of advice I got from a new friend Brenan bashard recently who's also way older than me well I say way actually actually don't know how old these is maybe he's

in his 40s or 50s or something 40s probably um is that at the start of the year to schedule out in advance the holidays and the family trips and the

trips with his wife and the trips with his kids and stuff and so then because a blank calendar will just be filled with work commitments by default because as an entrepreneur you know stuff always

going on things always coming up and so carving out deliberately carving out that time for rest for recharging for vacations and stuff yeah that is definitely definitely an action point

carve out time next 12 months for vacations easy nice good stuff thank you Chris

let's now go on to Noah Kagan who is also an entrepreneur and now author of the very good book million dollar weekend um Noah and I got to know each other in lockdown when I interviewed him on my remote podcast at the time I was

doing live streams here on this YouTube channel and I've been following Noah's work online since like 2015 and then it turns out that one of his team members was a subscriber to my email newsletter and so he connected us and then Noah and I ended up becoming friends he very

kindly hosted me in his house in Austin for a month while I was there last year generally all around awesome guy and so let's see what Noah has to say what is up Ali abdal most happy your birthday I truly love you my left side my face is

numb cuz I went to the dentist and now I'm getting an MRI back here and it's raining and awesome but who cares cares about that here are things when I turn 30 I wish I wish someone would have told

me uh so number one it keeps getting better with age you are the fine wine of life my friend I thought 20 it was okay 30 it gets you better and has 40 it's

even better so as you're getting older just keeps getting better and better life can actually get better and I think that's an optimistic attitude to really be embracing and something I think you do a great job of and we keep doing

number two I think these decade birthdays are overhyped it's like oh dir I got to go you know to the moon or I got to go do some crazy no simpler

just be with close friends is the best birthday so can you go just spend quality time with your parents can you just have a simple just go to a nice meal or cook a meal together or go

camping uh that's something as I've gotten older I'm like just be with the people that matter uh versus all the other distractions number three write out where you think and want to be at 40

that is something that I think you'll find really interesting and you'll surprise yourself and it'll give you some direction cuz you're like here's my predictions for 40 do it and then you're like hm that was actually a lot more

accurate or not but at least you start thinking about what would 40 look like and it gives you 10 years to get there I don't know if it it happens faster than we think but at least you have somewhere you're like cool here's some amazing stuff I think by 40 I would I would like

to be doing and and you'll have that written down next up whatever is working for you right now just do it for another 10 years stick with it so Health stuff

Biz stuff YouTube stuff friends stuff relationship stuff where your living stuff I I think at times we're like oh it's 30 this kind of arbitrary period I need to start changing things change

some but really think about what's working and how can you continue that for the next you know maybe 400 years number five do skin care skinc care yes my friend look at this I'm actually 60

no I'm just kidding 42 but facial lotions sunblock if you start it now by the time you're 40 by the time you're 50 by the time you're like 60 plus like me like damn I'm thank God I try to put on

skincare and sunblock and all these things to protect my gorgeous prized possession which is your face and then lastly I think someone something I wish someone would told me at 30 is just

enjoy it you know we're you know we're ambitious people you're a happy person at least I love my interactions with you enjoy all this stuff enjoy the things you worked on enjoy en the people you

work with enjoy the places you are enjoy the food you're having really enjoying the journey it's just like we're on a planet floating an asteroid might come so just enjoy the whole experience along the way I love you so much I'm really

truly blessed to have you in my life I hope the 30s are better than the 20s which they will be and you just uh enjoy it all my man love you good stuff thank you very much Noah okay life gets better

with age that's good to know decade but there's overhyped be with close friends nice write out where you want to be at 40 so I've got an action point this is something fun to do after this video I'm going to write a letter to my

40-year-old self that'll be interesting to look back on 10 years from now if I'm alive by then fingers crossed uh what's working do it from that's interesting I really liked this point that we often think we need to change things but

actually there's plenty of there's like almost every aspect of my life is working right now and so if I were to just continue doing it for another 10 years things would probably just continue to work which is awesome skincare I need to get back into my

retinoid I do a good job with the moisturizer and the sun cream but I sort of ran out of deliveries of my retinoid and haven't been on it for a few months so retinoid let's add that as an action point Exclamation mark and enjoy the

journey love that thank you Noah all right next up we have Eric partaker Eric is my CEO coach currently Eric and I met online a couple of years ago when he interviewed me on his podcast and then he seemed to know his

stuff and so I reached out to him saying hey can I be a coaching client of yours we've been working together for the last two plus years he's really helped uh me and the business and Angus my general manager and we've hung out in real life a bunch of times he's featured on the

podcast as well so let's see what Eric has to say when I turned 30 I wish somebody told me that I didn't have to have everything figured out um know exactly what I wanted to do because I

was absolutely obsessed um you know with just needing to know every single step that was going to happen thereafter you know where will I be working what kind of job will I have what will I be doing

and the funny thing is is that since then I could have never I mean since then you know I've gone from starting off as a consultant to helping build a

uh a tech company Skype um to building a restaurant chain to then becoming an influencer on LinkedIn to starting an

investment company to now building an edtech company and it's like literally the best quote in the world is John Lenin's um life is what happens while you're busy making other plans and if

you just focus on whatever it is that you want to do if you just focus on what are you know what's the 8020 what are the 20% of things within that job within that role within that

industry that could create 80% of you know the inflection point or whatever it is that you're trying to create and just double down on whatever that 20% is you know and find the leverage like that's

the secret and I wish somebody would have told me that rather than thinking I had to have everything figured out and everything covered nice that is good so we have

another journaling prompt man this is going to be a long session of journaling but that's okay cuz I'm flying to America next week so that's going to be a 14-hour flight so I'll do a bunch of journaling then what is the 20% in work health and relationships that drives 80%

of the positive outcomes that would be very useful to journal on and then finally we come to Daniel Priestley Dan is also now a friend and Mentor I also met Dan for the first time when he was interviewed on my podcast 3 years ago

now and since then Dan has become a very close friend and Mentor Dan is also a Serial entrepreneur um has a bunch of companies makes loads of money but also is married and has three kids and really cares about his family life as well and

so like like with with everyone who I've mentioned here I like I admire them for their business prowess but also for the way in which they approach their personal lives and so Dan has really been a fountain of wisdom on the entrepreneurship front but also on the

personal life front so let's see what Dan has to say hey Ally happy birthday uh what an amazing thing it is to turn 30 when I was 30 I wish someone had have

told me three things so number one that turning 30 is a change in chapter right it's a new chapter the 20s is its own chapter it's a chapter about

workshopping life and around and finding out so to speak um you can make plenty of mistakes in your 20s and they're all pretty recoverable um but the game does change at 30 and what's

going to happen is you're going to have some people who come into your life who are new amazing people you'll also have some people who go out of your life uh the number the types of people or the

people who are in your life in your 20s some of them depart some of them exit stage left and that's okay that's normal that's a normal thing they get replaced with some other amazing people as well

um the relationship that you have with your family definitely changes when you're 30 the relationship you have with your parents changes when you're in your 30s compared to when you're in your 20s so there's a big shift that happens

there it is a change in chapter that leads me to point number two which is that the foundations that you lay at age 30 uh dictate the quality of life that

you have when you're 40 so making some small Investments at 30 pays off big time by the time you're 40 building a quality reputation in a brand like you

like you're doing uh you think it's paying off in the short term it pays off incredibly in the long term by the time you're 40 you will have achieved so many magical

unexpected uh mysterious uh wonderful things happen around you as a result of the good work that you do um at 30 right so give it

time and these things compound uh the ability to raise money the ability to launch businesses the ability to uh mobilize resources if you do the right

things from 30 to 35 all of that stuff becomes super easy by the time you're 40 to 45 and then the final one a lot of people are going to tell you this one which is get in the gym and stay in the

gym right now it's time to take Fitness pretty seriously unfortunately uh after 30 you use it or lose it in your 20s fitness and health come pretty effortlessly you can do a

lot of Reckless things in your 20s uh you can go out partying and all of that sort of stuff and uh you bounce back pretty fast uh as you get past 30 uh

it's a use it or lose it game if you're in the gym if you're keeping your health if you're eating well if you're looking after yourself then you keep all of that uh and if you don't you you lose it and

sometimes it's very very hard to get it back the the further past 30 you go so make sure you press you you protect that precious asset of Health and Wellness uh through your 30s those are three things

that I wish someone had have told me when I was turning 30 uh and I hope that adds some value cheers all righty thank you very much Dan change in chapter I agree I like the

foundation's point the quality reputation brand really pays off over the very long term and fitness use it or lose it so I think that brings us to the end of this video If you enjoyed this video you might like to check out this one over here which is a video that I

did reacting to seven truths that I now know at 30 that I wish I'd known earlier where I go through some of the life advice that I've learned over the last seven years of being on YouTube here so yeah if you enjoyed this video I hope you'll enjoy that one thank you so much

for watching I hope you got value from this video and I'll see you hopefully next time bye-bye